How Not to Be a Bridezilla


It’s very natural for any bride to be tense or worried, wanting everything to go well on one of the most important days of their life. Every bride wants her wedding to be perfect and memorable, and the need to want to make that day perfect turns many brides into bridezillas without even realizing it.No woman wants to be called or seen as a bridezilla. However, in preparation for their wedding, some exhibit controlling tendencies.

A bridezilla is a woman who is overly concerned with every aspect of her wedding. There are a few traits that all bridezillas have in common. To name a few: going significantly over budget, having a “me first” mentality, talking too much about the wedding, expecting special treatment, and so on. However, there are ways to avoid being a bridezilla.

Important things to note

Keep in Mind That It’s Only For a Day

“It’s my big day,” I say, and I want everything to go smoothly. This is what any bride would tell herself, what any bride should tell herself, and what everyone, including family and friends, tells the bride. With all of the planning, preparation, and chaos that comes with weddings, the bride needs to remember that it’s only for a day. If something doesn’t go as planned, laugh it off and enjoy every single moment of your special day instead of attempting to figure it out and regain control.

Keep in Mind That They are Your Friends and Family, Not Your Employees

While your bridesmaids, groomsmen, and parents assist you on your wedding day, you are not their boss. Maintain good decorum, ask for things instead of demanding them, and be grateful for people close to you. If they’re pleased, they’ll keep you happy. This will keep your anger and irritability at bay. They are there to support you out of the love they have for you, and when things don’t go as planned, do not shout at them.

Remember to Communicate

Your bridesmaids, family, and even the hired help for the day are all waiting for you. To avoid any misunderstandings, try to communicate. Share your ideas and plans, let them know what you need, and pay attention to their criticism. It may assist you in seeing things in a new light and relieve the stress of planning. You can’t do everything on your own; think about other people’s viewpoints.

Remember, it’s Got to be a Fun Day for You.

A wedding is more than simply a party; it is a ceremony that brings two people who are in love together to spend the rest of their lives together. Remember that everyone is there to celebrate your decision with you, and you can’t afford to appear unhappy while doing so. Relax and have fun while planning your wedding and on the big day. You’re on the edge of becoming a bridezilla when you stop being excited and having fun about the wedding.

Don’t Forget to Delegate Tasks

For a wedding to be successful, a lot of things have to be put in place. So, try to delegate duties to people you can trust from among your friends and family. These people have been with you for a long time and are aware of the things you would want or need. Trust them to handle the tasks you’ve placed in their care and see how relieved you will be when you don’t have the whole weight of the wedding on your shoulders. Choose people with whom you can trust their services and with whom you feel at ease, and then let them do their jobs.

Avoid Making Comparisons

Comparing your wedding to that of other people’s weddings you’ve attended at one point in time just creates unnecessary pressure. When you begin to compare the standards or plans for your wedding to those of other people, you begin to second guess your choices. You will realize that you won’t be able to stick with a decision and start changing your mind over and over again. You will become less of a bridezilla if you try to trust your choices and taste.

Take a Break

Take time away from all the wedding planning to spend time with your bridesmaids, your fiancée, your friends, and your family. Take time away to take care of yourself, your skin, your health, and you and your fiancée. Talk less about the wedding when taking time out with anyone you’re with at this time.


Your wedding day is a happy occasion. Avoid becoming a bridezilla and ruining the day for yourself, your soon-to-be spouse, your family, and your friends. Examine yourself to see what sets you off and makes you uptight. Try not to get too worked up over them. Nothing should be able to take away your happiness on that special day cause being a bridezilla can.

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Pamela Abua